fear not, cause lady gaga is gonna scream!

14 Oct

alright i know, enough with my crush on obama, but it keeps getting better. but just to spice it up a bit here’s a fun pic:


thanks cynthia.

here are some of my favorite things that President Obama said in his speech on saturday night.

“For while some may wish to define you solely by your sexual orientation or gender identity alone, you know — and I know — that none of us wants to be defined by just one part of what makes us whole.”

“You’re spouses who fear that you or the person you love will lose a job. You’re workers worried about the rising cost of health insurance. You’re soldiers. You are neighbors. You are friends. And, most importantly, you are Americans who care deeply about this country and its future.”

“And it’s a testament to Matthew [Shepard] and to others who’ve been the victims of attacks not just meant to break bones, but to break spirits — not meant just to inflict harm, but to instill fear. Together, we will have moved closer to that day when no one has to be afraid to be gay in America. When no one has to fear walking down the street holding the hand of the person they love.”

“And that’s why it’s so important that you continue to speak out, that you continue to set an example, that you continue to pressure leaders — including me — and to make the case all across America.”

i just wanted to say a little something about fear. that’s really what this post is about. President Obama talked about being “afraid to be gay” in context to Matthew Shepard implying that being gay in America can be and has been dangerous even deadly.  this is atrocious. but thankfully this is not the kind of fear i have had to deal with.  something that was sort of unspoken in this speech is the fear of self.  internal homophobia.  wanting to make others comfortable.  i’ve been in situations where i had no fear about holding the hand of the person i’m with, but the person i was with sure did.  not because we were in a dangerous place or even just trying to make a statement, but because of this internal fear. masked by the question of, what will people think? when really, the question is, what will i think? i’m actually not okay with this so how can i expect other people to be? and this, this is the fear i’ve dealt with and it is stifling and damaging to all of our relationships.

if you want to read the President’s full speech, it was transcribed in this l.a. times article titled, what obama tells impatient gays gathered in d.c. nice l.a. times, real nice. fuck you and your patience.

and a shout out to a music momma: lady gaga thanks for the tunes and support!



One Response to “fear not, cause lady gaga is gonna scream!”

  1. Frank Stone October 16, 2009 at 4:33 pm #

    Nice! I always wanted to write in my site something like that. Can I take part of your post to my blog?

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