Why did you save her, after all the terrible things she did to you?

9 Feb

due to some odd events in my life i’ve had my not-so-distant past catch up with me a bit. not in my favorite way.  so it’s got me thinking about relationships and how sometimes you meet people that just have a funny way of popping up or getting under your skin or having exes that stalk you. i went and saw blue valentine this week. it did a few things:

1) cemented all of my fears about commitment.

2) renewed my dawson’s creek love for michelle williams.

3) made me realize i would fuck ryan gosling.

4) depressed the shit out of me.

5) got me thinking about gender roles and relationships.

this was my favorite quote from the movie: dean says, “I feel like men are more romantic than women. When we get married we marry, like, one girl, ’cause we’re resistant the whole way until we meet one girl and we think I’d be an idiot if I didn’t marry this girl she’s so great. But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option… ‘Oh he’s got a good job.’ I mean they spend their whole life looking for Prince Charming and then they marry the guy who’s got a good job and is gonna stick around.”

i think perhaps there is quite a bit of truth there. then again, what the fuck do i know? i’m a gay gal who will probably never get married and knows very little about guys. but i do know a little about being afraid of being alone and in a way, dean is sort of saying we all reach a point where we don’t want that anymore. even if that person hurts us. even if that person sucks. even if you do leave or are left, you still hold on… a bit.


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